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More pro-abortion class. How is this any different than saying “Don’t fuck him. He won’t pay to kill his child.”
I was scrolling down and just saw the picture first and I thought to myself that this is basically saying "Do not have sex with this man. He won’t sit idly by while you have his flesh-and-blood child torn to pieces." And then I scrolled down a little more and saw that cultureshift had wrote pretty much the same thing.
Don’t fuck him. He doesn’t hold the belief that no one should be allowed to use my body without my continuing consent…..sounds like a dealbreaker to me.
Serious dealbreaker. Who’s to say that his staggering sense of entitlement over my body won’t extend to other things I didn’t consent to? Just sayin.
I will not ever have sex with someone who proudly voices their disrespect for my body and my rights.
If having sex with people who think I don’t even deserve to control what happens to my body is what’s “classy” then I want to be as far away from “classy” as I can be.
The Importance of Comprehensive Sexual Education:
"Research has identified highly effective sex education and HIV prevention programs that affect multiple behaviors and/or achieve positive health impacts. Behavioral outcomes have included delaying the initiation of sex as well as reducing the frequency of sex, the number of new partners, and the incidence of unprotected sex, and/or increasing the use of condoms and contraception among sexually active participants. Long-term impacts have included lower STI and/or pregnancy rates." [x]
We need to equip people with knowledge and resources to maintain a healthy and safe lifestyle. By teaching comprehensive sex education we are allowing people to make informed decisions about their health and and personal lives. - Paige
The Basics (Anatomy and Biological functions):
- What is a vagina?
- What is a vulva? (Basic Anatomy inside links.)
- What is the vagina’s biological function during sexual intercourse (specifically PIV sex)?
- What is the uterus and what is it’s biological function?
- What is a hymen and what are the different kinds of hymens?
- What is the purpose of a hymen?
- Which hole does urine come out of and which hole does menstruation come out of?
- What is a menstrual cycle?
- What is menstruation?
- Why do we menstruate?
- How to use pads, tampons, and menstrual cups.
- What is ovulation?
- The vagina, is in fact, designed to keep itself clean with the help of natural secretions (discharge). But there are ways you can help maintain the cleanliness of your vagina (i.e. avoiding perfumed soaps and gently washing the vulva area, not the actual vagina.) Click the link for more information.
- *Vaginal odors and discharge; what’s normal and what’s not?
- What is douching?
- "A Pap smear, also called a Pap test, is a procedure to test for cervical cancer in people. A Pap smear involves collecting cells from your cervix — the lower, narrow end of your uterus that’s at the top of your vagina."
- When do I need a pap smear?
- "A “vaginal orgasm” is the notion that [people] can have an orgasm through stimulation during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, entirely without clitoral stimulation. However, the vagina has few nerve endings, and therefore cannot create an orgasm on its own. Instead of thinking of the vagina and clitoris as separate entities, try thinking about them as a network of nerves and muscles."
- "There’s some disagreement about the size of the G-spot; it may range from a quarter inch to a couple inches along the upper wall of your vagina, about an inch or two past your vaginal opening. Underneath it is highly sensitive tissue that, when touched the right way, triggers feelings of sexual happiness, explains Debby Herbenick, PhD."
- Myths and facts about orgasms.
- Tips on how to have an orgasm.
- Having trouble reaching an orgasm? No worries, there is help! [x][x]
- "Female genital mutilation (FGM) includes procedures that intentionally alter or cause injury to the female genital organs for non-medical reasons."
- “The procedure has no health benefits for girls and women.”
- "Procedures can cause severe bleeding and problems urinating, and later cysts, infections, infertility as well as complications in childbirth and increased risk of newborn deaths."
- "FGM is a violation of the human rights of girls and women."
The Basics (Anatomy and Biological Functions):
- What is a penis?
- What are testicles? (Basic Anatomy inside links.)
- What is the penis’ biological function during sexual intercourse? (Specifically PIV sex.)
- Examining your testicles for Testicular Cancer: How to.
- "Gently wash the penis with warm water each day when you’re having a shower or bath. If you have a foreskin, pull it back gently and wash underneath."
- "Gently washing your penis once a day with warm water is sufficient to maintain good hygiene. If you want to use soap, choose a mild or non-perfumed soap to reduce the risk of skin irritation."
- "An erection begins in the brain. Physical and/or mental stimulation cause nerves in the brain to send chemical messages to nerves in the penis telling the penile blood vessels to relax so that blood can flow freely into the penis. Once in the penis, high pressure traps the blood within both corpora cavernosa. This causes the penis to expand and sustain an erection."
- "Ejaculation, the release of semen at climax, is triggered when a person reaches a critical level of excitement."
- *Overcoming ejaculation problems.
- Is ejaculation and having an orgasm the same thing?
- What is semen and what does it do?
- What is Erectile Dysfunction? Treatments.
- "Circumcision is the removal of a simple fold of skin (the `foreskin’ or `prepuce’) that covers the head (glans) of the un-erect penis."
- While there are benefits of being circumcised, it is not medically necessary.
- What is masturbation and how do you do it?
- Why do people masturbate?
- Is masturbating normal and can it be harmful?
(Short answer: Masturbation is normal, and no it is not harmful!)
- WebMDs Masturbation FAQ.
- The benefits of masturbation: [x] [x]
- An Asexual’s Guide to Masturbation.
- People define “sex” in different ways. Some people believe that it only counts as sex if a penis goes into a vagina, but this isn’t true for everybody. There are lots of different ideas about what sex can be: Vaginal sex (penis-in-vagina intercourse), Oral sex (mouth-to-genital contact), Anal sex (penis-in-anus intercourse), Dry humping or genital rubbing, Fingering or hand jobs (hand-to-genital contact), and Masturbation.
- What is oral sex?
- What is anal sex?
- Why do people have sex?
- How to have safe sex.
(STI and pregnancy prevention goes more in depth below!)
- "Whenever you have sex, you need to make sure that your partner is just as enthusiastic about having sex. In other words, that they give their full consent.” Consent is an enthusiastic, freely-given, uncoerced, sober, “yes”.
- Consent is ALWAYS mandatory, whether you’re married, dating or just met.
- What is sex without consent? Rape/Sexual Assault.
- Sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attention.
- What do I do if I’ve been sexually assaulted?
- Sexual assault prevention and awareness.
- Resources for sexual assault victims: United States.
- Resources for sexual assault victims: Canada.
- Resources for sexual assault victims: United Kingdom.
- More international resources.
- More resources.
- "While it’s common for [some] to feel pain or discomfort with sex, it’s not “normal” in that it has to happen or there isn’t an alternative. Sex is not supposed to hurt: it’s supposed to feel very good.”
[Inside the link above, it does explain what to do to make sure sex is not painful.]
Are there benefits to having sex?
- 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex.
- Top 11 Benefits of Having Sex.
- 14 Unexpected Benefits of Having Sex.
What does MOGII mean?
- Marginalized Orientation, Gender Identity, and Intersex.
It’s a synonym for LGBTQIAP+ and is inclusive for people who don’t have or don’t want labels, rejects allies, and uses no reclaimed slurs.
- "Sexual orientation describes to whom a person is sexually attracted. Some people are attracted to people of a particular gender; others are attracted to more than one gender. Some are not attracted to anyone."
- “Affectional orientation is a term that describes to whom a person is romantically attracted, acknowledging that for many people there are more components to attraction than just sexual desire.”
- "The ways in which a person identifies and/or expresses their gender, including self-image, appearance, and embodiment of gender roles. One’s sex (e.g., male, female, intersex, etc.) is usually assigned at birth based on one’s physical biology. One’s gender (e.g., man, woman, genderqueer, etc.) is one’s internal sense of self and identity.”
- Some gender identities.
- Some more gender identities.
- Genderqueer and Non Binary Identities.
- Resources for most Gender Identities.
(Resources for understanding gender identity, figuring out yours, how to come out to parents and friends, transitioning resources, local supports, and more!)
- "Some people who identify as asexual do not experience sexual attraction to other people, while others experience sexual attraction but no desire to act on these attractions."
- “Asexuality and Celibacy are not the same. Many people who are asexual live a celibate life, meaning that they do not engage in sex with others. But while Celibacy is a choice, asexuality is not.”
- "Asexuality is not a dysfunction, and there is no need to find a "cause" or a "cure."" [x]
- Are all people who identify as asexual sex repulsed? No!
- Asexual Visibility and Education Network.
What does transgender mean? (Resources below!)
- "Transgender – or trans – is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity or expression is different from those typically associated with the sex assigned to them at birth (e.g., the sex listed on their birth certificate)." [x]
- "Transgender may be used to describe someone who was assigned female or male at birth, but later realizes that label doesn’t accurately reflect who they feel they are inside."
- Resources for transgender people.
- More resources for transgender people
- Coming Out as Trans
- All About Gender Therapy
- Trans Health Matters: Trans Women
- Trans Health Matters: Trans Men
- Top 10 Trans-Friendly Colleges
- “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.
- How common is intersex?
- Intersex Society of North America.
- Resources for intersex people.
- "A sexually transmissible infection (STI) is any infection or disease that can be passed from one person to another during sexual activity. Sexually transmissible infections include chlamydia, herpes, gonorrhea, syphilis, genital herpes, scabies, pubic lice (crabs), hepatitis and HIV (the virus that causes AIDS).”
- Why do we call them STIs now and not STDs?
- Everyone is at risk of obtaining an STI, but some are more at risk.
- STIs that can be contracted through non-sexual contact.
- Female / male condoms and dental dams.
- Finger cots (finger condoms).
- Post-exposure prophylaxis, is a short-term antiretroviral treatment to reduce the likelihood of HIV infection after potential exposure.
- Know the signs and symptoms of an STI. If you notice a symptom that worries you, get checked out!
- How do I get tested for STIs?
- What treatments are out there for STIs?
- To be pregnant is to have an embryo/fetus developing in your uterus. “A pregnancy is considered to be established only after implantation is complete.”
- "When engaging in unprotected vaginal intercourse during which ejaculation of sperm occurs in the vagina. The sperm can then travel up through the cervix, into the uterus, and, if an egg is present, the sperm may fertilize it."
- "It is also possible — but less likely — for a person to become pregnant through any kind of sex play in which semen, or ejaculate, comes in contact with the vulva. The sperm can travel through the moisture on the vulva into the vagina."
- WebMD’s Online Pregnancy Center.
- What to Expect: Pregnancy.
- Pregnancy Resources.
- If you’re pregnant you have three options; parenting, adoption, and abortion.
- Only you can decide what is right for you, definitely take some time to go over your options, but remember, the sooner you decide the more options you’ll have.
- Resources for Decision Making and Low Income Parenting.
- Abortion funds and Judicial Bypass.
How do you prevent pregnancy? (Check out birth control masterpost below.)
- "Birth control allows us to prevent pregnancy and plan the timing of pregnancy."
- Birth control is not a “one size fit’s all deal” there are all different kinds of birth control out there from hormonal to non hormonal, methods to medicines, and so on. The best way to figure out which birth control works best for you is by doing research and speaking with your doctor.
- ****Contraceptives Masterpost****
^^ Lists many birth control options (and links you to more information about these options), goes over emergency contraceptives and FAQs, birth control FAQs, options for people with allergies or personal preferences, and debunks myths about birth control.
- Lubricants that should not be used on condoms.
- Where can I obtain birth control/contraceptives?
- Guide to getting privacy under parent’s health insurance.
- 10 Ways to save on Birth Control.
Why are people on here complaining about reproductive rights in the US? The government pays for my birth control and I could literally drive to the abortion clinic right now and get a fetus sucked right out of me. The only people trying to change this are old white men who nobody likes anyway. I don’t see what the problem is. Feel free to enlighten me?
Do you live in the USA or elsewhere? If you are in the USA, you’re in a great situation in regards to abortion/contraceptive access. That’s awesome!
Not everyone is so lucky, though. In 2013 alone, 70 abortion restrictions were put into place around the country [x]. There are some states, such as Mississippi, that only have one clinic located in the entire state [x]. Texas is heading down the same path with many of it’s clinics being closed down as well [x]. It’s very hard for people to access abortion clinics when they have to travel and face things like waiting periods after traveling.
Even those with close access to abortion clinics can sometimes be scared off by anti-abortion protestors who will harass them up until they either enter the clinic or leave the property. Even if they’re visiting for something like birth control or an STI test instead of abortion, protestors don’t know that.
Not everyone has to face these barriers and I am so thankful that I live in a country where abortion isn’t completely restricted, but we can do a lot better.
You say you are not a vessel yet you accept being used an object repeatedly having set yet denying the consequences
You say you are a humanitarian yet you seek to destroy life in its first moments of existence
Having sex does not turn you into an object. Sexually active people are still fully sentient, autonomous human persons.
When pro-lifers say things like people who are sexually active without the intention of getting pregnant are just “objects” it really shows the movement’s true colors.
Note the sources of the above quotes.
Contraception is not the answer. We deserve better.
First things first, look at your sources, it’s like you by-passed all the current information on this topic and put up a bunch of outdated information that agreed with your ass backward views.
I’m sure you heard of the very recent news of the Free Birth Control Initiative Colorado was able to put into place about 4 years back:
- "The initiative administered by the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment began offering low-income women from 68 Colorado family planning clinics over 30,000 intrauterine devices (IUDs)or implants at low or no cost in 2009. Young women from these family planning clinics accounted for three-quarters of the state’s overall decline in the teen birth rate, and teen abortion rates dropped by 35 percent in counties that were included in the initiative between 2009 and 2012. Back in 2008, Colorado was home to the 29th lowest teenage birth rate across the nation. By 2012, three years after the initiative started, it jumped to the 19th lowest teen birth rate." [x]
But wait there’s more!
- What would happen if women at risk for unintended pregnancies received the birth control of their choice — especially the more effective kinds — at no cost? The national abortion rate would plummet, according to a study conducted by researchers at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis and published in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology on Thursday. [x]
And there’s also this:
- "Between 2008 and 2011, the national abortion rate declined by 13 percent, according to a new report from the Guttmacher Institute that will be published in a forthcoming issue of the Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health journal. That puts 2011′s abortion rate at 16.9 abortions per every 1,000 women of reproductive age, the lowest rate recorded since Roe v. Wade legalized the procedure in 1973.”
- “The decline in abortions coincided with a steep national drop in overall pregnancy and birth rates,” Rachel Jones, the lead author of Guttmacher’s study, explained in a statement accompanying the new report. “Contraceptive use improved during this period, as more women and couples were using highly effective, long-acting reversible contraceptive methods, such as the IUD. Moreover, the recent recession led many women and couples to want to avoid or delay pregnancy and childbearing.” [x]
Birth control not only lowers the rates of pregnancies, but the rates of abortions as well. I’m surprised I even have to say that, this is ridiculous. The thing you need to remember is that birth control failure usually happens do to human error, and human error is often caused by not being educated enough about the birth control you are taking.
This is why implementing comprehensive sex ed into our schools is so important, teaching our youth the importance of birth control and how to properly use it is so important. Human error happens for many reasons, but in most of these cases it’s because they were uninformed. (Also, before you even go there, free contraceptives and/or condoms do not make people more likely to be promiscuous or engage in riskier sex.)
So want lower abortion rates? Teach people about contraception and how it’s used, of course, no contraceptive is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy, but when properly used and paired with other methods it’s pretty damn close. Educate people, give them their options, so they can make informed decisions about their health and their bodies. Here’s my birth control masterpost that many people have said was helpful, maybe you should take a gander at it as well. - Paige
I recently interviewed Donna, who struggles with feelings of loss, sadness, and guilt over an abortion her mother had before she was born. Her testimony is raw and honest, and she is still struggling with the death of her sibling. Even though neither her testimony nor her views fit neatly into the typical pro-life narrative that some people may expect, I feel she deserves a chance to be heard.…
Oh my god are you kidding me? Of course some moronic person would feel so terrible about a medical procedure that has NOTHING to do with them. What a bunch of whiners.
Alternative Title: “Person Who Was Not Involved or Relevant to Situation Makes Entire Thing About Themselves for a Manipulative Pro-Life Article”
Pro-Choice-Or-No-Voice's Sticker Giveaway!
We’re nearing 4,000 followers and thought it was about time we showed our appreciation for all you lovely folks!
- The stickers being given away are the one’s pictured above;
- 2 “Pro-Parenting, Pro-Adoption, Pro-Abortion, Pro Choice” stickers!
- 1 “My Uterus is my business” sticker!The Rules & How to Enter!
- Must be following our blog, this is an appreciation giveaway to our followers of course!
- Likes will not count as an entry!
- Feel free to reblog as much as you like, but please, do not spam your followers!Giveaway ends on September 6th, 2014!
We will be using a randomizer to pick the winner and then we will send them a message to let them know they’ve won! (So make sure your inboxes are open!)
*Also, please note that if an anti-choicer should reblog this and get picked, we will redraw.
Good luck to everyone! Cheers! - Paige
there’s nothing wrong with having an abortion.
whatever your reason, whatever the circumstances.
there was nothing wrong with your choice.
you are a good person and always will be.